When it comes to love, many of us are searching for the perfect partner—but what if the first relationship we need to heal is the one with ourselves? Meet Moonlight Devi, a relationship and self-love coach whose intuitive, heart-led approach is helping women rediscover their worth, set powerful boundaries, and call in love that actually aligns. Blending energy healing, subconscious reprogramming, and real-world coaching tools, she guides her clients through some of life’s most tender transitions—with softness, strength, and soul. Here is what she had to say.
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Her Background & Work
1. What inspired you to become a relationship and self-love coach?
People started coming to me for help. When I founded Moonlight Devi, it began with this deep desire to empower women. I started hosting singles events around the city, and that’s when it really hit me, so many women were asking for support. How to date, what to ask, how to spot red flags… and the truth is, I didn’t feel fully equipped because I was navigating all of that myself too! I’ve always been fascinated by psychology, so I found myself at a fork in the road: go back to school to become a counselor, or find a faster way to support the people already showing up for help. I asked the universe for guidance, and it delivered. I discovered a coaching institute that focused specifically on singles and relationships, and the rest is history.
2. Can you describe your coaching style or approach?
My style is very intuitive and healing-centered. During my own healing journey, I was introduced to ThetaHealing, which is a meditative practice that helped me completely shift some of the subconscious beliefs I didn’t even know were holding me back. That experience was so life-changing, I got certified to offer it to others. So now, I blend two approaches: I offer belief reprogramming through meditation (ThetaHealing), and I also use more traditional coaching methods, like guided questions and NLP techniques. I’m currently getting certified in NLP, too; so think Tony Robbins, but with more heart and softness.
3. What kind of transformations have your clients experienced?
Honestly, it’s easier to ask what haven’t they transformed! Many start with my traditional coaching programs and eventually get curious about ThetaHealing—once we try it, everything shifts. I’ve seen women walk away from 10-year toxic relationships, rebuild their identities, and step into more powerful, grounded versions of themselves. Others have left draining jobs and stepped into roles that align with their values and passions—and from there, healthy love naturally follows. I’ve also had clients heal broken relationships with their parents, which helped them feel more whole and strengthened their marriages or family dynamics. Watching someone reconnect with their truth and create space for joy, love, and peace again… it’s the most beautiful transformation.
On Self-Love
4. What does self-love really mean to you?
For me, self-love is about choosing me, loving me, and picking me, and not in an ego-driven way, but in an intentional, self-aware way. It’s about really understanding who I am, how I think, feel, move through the world, and using that knowledge to make choices that support my best self.
5. Why is self-love so essential before entering a relationship?
Because self-love is awareness. If you don’t know who you are or how to love yourself, how can anyone else know how to love you either? It’s been so clear to me, both personally and professionally, that knowing yourself is the foundation of any healthy relationship. You have to be your own anchor first.
6. What are some daily habits or practices that help build self-worth?
One of my favorite practices that I give to my clients is something I call a “love inventory.” Some may know it as a gratitude journal, but mine’s a bit more focused. Every day, write down three things that made you feel good, things that made you feel seen, valued, or loved. They don’t have to be big things. It could be someone checking in on you with a sweet message. Then you say to your body and subconscious, this is what it feels like to be loved, acknowledged, appreciated. It’s a way to shift your focus onto all the beauty that’s already present in your life instead of what’s missing, because that’s what real love is.
On Relationships
7. What are some red flags people often overlook in relationships?
Their own gut feeling. Ignoring your intuition is a huge one. Not listening to their values. I heard this amazing quote once that Tony Robbins said at one of the events I attended: “People will break their own values to meet their needs.” And that spoke volumes to me, because us overlooking our values just to be with someone is the biggest red flag in any type of relationship.
8. How can someone heal after a breakup and get back in touch with themselves?
Start by forgiving yourself for the part you played in it, and to remember that not everyone is meant to stay. You tried. You gave. You learned. Let yourself feel everything, don’t rush it. Emotions are valid, no matter how long the relationship lasted. Then, slowly come back home to yourself. Reflect on what this experience taught you so you can move forward with more clarity and confidence. And hey, if you’re still stuck, we might just need to do an Energetic Divorce on you!
9. What does a healthy, conscious relationship look like?
That’s such a personal question, and honestly, I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer. I think the question here should be what does a healthy, conscious relationship look like to you? Define that and work for that.
On Advice for Others
10. What would you say to someone who feels unworthy of love?
I’d ask, “Who told you that?” Where did that belief come from? We’re not born feeling unworthy, we learn it through experiences, words, and moments that left a mark. But if we can learn it, we can unlearn it. So what I would say is, lets write you a new story and start learning new things.
11. How can someone begin to set boundaries without guilt?
By understanding and knowing your own values. When you know who you are and what matters to you, it becomes easier to communicate boundaries with clarity and confidence, which eliminates the guilt or shame.
12. What are the most common patterns you help your clients break?
The biggest ones are subconscious beliefs they’ve carried for years, sometimes even generations. Things like “I’m not enough,” “Love isn’t for me,” “I always get hurt.” You know, the classics! But once we bring them to the surface and rewire them, that’s when the magic happens.
A Fun & Personal Touch
13. What’s one book or quote that changed your life?
I already shared the quote earlier, but as for books: All About Love by Bell Hooks and A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. Those two books helped me completely redefine what love means, for myself and in relationships. Truly life
changing.
14. What does your own self-love practice look like?
I do my daily love inventory, I hit the gym at least three times a week to keep my body and mind in sync, and I surround myself with people who light me up. I try not to overbook or overextend myself (still working on that part though!), but I’m always trying to honor what I need in the moment, and what I can actually do.
15. If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be?
Choose you. Love you. Pick you. Everything else will fall into place.
Moonlight Devi’s work reminds us that love isn’t something we chase—it’s something we return to within. Whether you’re healing after a breakup, learning to trust yourself again, or finally ready to call in a relationship that honors your heart, her message is clear: choose you, love you, pick you. Because when you anchor into your own worth, everything else begins to align. Ready to rewrite your story? Moonlight Devi is here to walk that path with you.
